The energy of confidence is generated by your solar plexus chakra, which lives at the base of your sternum. The solar plexus helps fuel your willpower and your sense of self. It is also energetically supporting your upper digestive system. You will notice people with low self esteem usually have their digestive system in shambles as well.
We build confidence in two different ways:
1. Validation from Community
&
2. Validation from the Self
We never want our wellness to rely entirely on sources we cannot control. We cannot control our communities reaction to us. More than that, many people are within families and communities that have no interest in validating them to begin with.
So we must learn to actively build validation from the self, where validation from community is a bonus and not the main source.
I believe that generating individual confidence is almost a rebellious act. For far too long we’ve been told to be humble and be in service. Sincerely, fuck that. Own your worth. Own your awesomeness. Shine bright so others can believe they can shine too. Confidence is not arrogance.
So, how do we build confidence for possibly the first time in your life?
You must become the validation you seek. Become your own hype man.
Think of it as a muscle you have never trained before. It’s time to start. You might be dismissive at first or feel silly, but these have very real benefits.
Nurture the Energy of Confidence
Step 1
You must compliment yourself. Daily. Force yourself at first if you have to, it will get easier over time. I promise you there is at least one thing you can compliment yourself on today.
Step 2
Thank yourself for showing up when you do. You didn’t want to shower but did it anyways? Give yourself a hell yeah!
This one people can struggle with, they will say- “But I have to. Why find pride in something that has to get done.”
Two notes to that response. 1 – plenty of people don’t even try to accomplish, you did, that deserves some hype. 2 – what is going to generate more positive energy? Shrugging it off is a neutral frequency. A moment of appreciate amplifies positive energy.
Step 3
At the end of your day write 3 things you are proud of (or think them clearly in your mind as you’re going to bed).
This will force your solar plexus and mind to search for the confidence, to latch onto, and let it shine. The more you do this, the easier it gets for your body to recognize accomplishments and allow that energy to build and circulate throughout your systems.
Step 4
Correct negative self talk!
We don’t say “I’m so stupid!” when we make mistakes anymore. We go “Silly me!” When I drop something I simply thank it for not breaking.
The negative voice in your head is trying to protect you but going at it the wrong way. Correct the voice and remind yourself that you are human and one of the absolute garuntees you have as a human is that you are going to make mistakes. Mistakes were part of the journey to every great invention. Give yourself grace.
Physical Ways to Nurture the Solar Plexus
The physical and the spiritual are forever supporting one another, so it’s helpful to light the candlestick from both ends so to speak.
Train Your Core
A strong core supports a strong solar plexus. If you have pain there this may seem challenging, and so you’d want to start with practicing a good posture with an engaged core either throughout your day or with intentional meditation
Be Kind to Your Digestion
Your solar plexus supports your digestion, but you need to be mindful about what you put into your body that helps or detracts from your digestion. I’m not saying be perfect with what you eat, adding guilt to eating is actually really bad energetically. Just try to keep vegetables and fruit alive in your diet. Everyones digestive journey is different, so honor yours in the way that you can.
Negative Attachments / Blockages
Now sometimes there are extra obstacles that need to be addressed to allow confidence to build. There are some negative entity attachments that will fuel a sense of self loathing or criticism. There can also be childhood wounds that have blocked the flow from the solar plexus as well. All of these are fixable so don’t despair. If you feel that you are in this category and don’t know how to release it on your own, an Energy Healing & Reading might be the boost you need. 
Meet Yourself Where You’re At
If your at capacity and burned out, I am not trying to add more to your plate. Doing a little bit of something is better than nothing at all. Start with a daily compliment, or correcting negative self talk. Start with saying ONE thing you’re proud of yourself of that day even if its full of humor and sarcasm.
